For the past 18 months I’ve been having a crash course in parenting teens. And I’ve learnt a lot of good lessons along the way.
Perhaps one of the most important things I’ve realised is that sometimes I need to stop and really tune in to what my children have to say, instead of thinking that I have all the answers. Whether your child is four days, four months, four or fourteen years old (or 40, as my mother tells me), a mother’s instinct is to nurture and protect her child. And we do that by making decisions based on the world as we know it and our own experiences.
But the truth is, our children often feel and see things differently from us. On more than just a few occasions, when I’ve taken the time to actually listen to them vocalise – often very eloquently – what they think, or explain why maybe I’m not
‘always right’, I’ve been forced to rethink or reverse a decision. It can be a difficult thing to do, but as my husband and I often tell ourselves, it’s definitely easier being the parent of a teenager than being a teen yourself.
Here’s hoping your month of love is a happy one.