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How to date your husband

Get the spark back with these 10 tips

Studies show that after three years of marriage, many couples start complaining about their relationship being stale and boring, even if you and your husband deeply love each other. Part of the difficulty with marriage is keeping things fresh and interesting. Taking your husband on dates is a great way to rejuvenate and strengthen your marriage while getting closer to your spouse.


Follow these easy steps:

  • Arrange a night where you both have no commitments. Ask your husband out on a date to do something you both enjoy.
  • Spend only what you know you can afford. The idea is to just get out of the house and spend time together.
  • Compliment your husband on his looks and clothes. After being married for a long time, people often forget to encourage and compliment their spouses.
  • Talk about things other than work or family plans.

Ideas for your date:

  • Check out the local restaurants and make a reservation for a romantic dinner.
  • What do you remember most about your first date? For a fun, nostalgic date, see if you can re-create that date. Perhaps you went out to eat or to a movie or a football game.
  • Sometimes the best plan is no plan at all. Spend a lazy day at home and enjoy those simple pleasures that busy schedules rarely allow. Do crossword puzzles together, read the paper or a book to each other, or watch your favourite movie.

Top tips:

  • Pick something that is not already part of your routine so it has some novelty and appeal.
  • Make date night a weekly or monthly event, but don’t make it very structured, otherwise even date night will get dull.
  • If you have kids and you can’t afford a babysitter, find another young couple with kids and offer to trade babysitting services. They take your kids while you and your wife go out and you take their’s when they go out.
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